Who has never been hurt by
others?
Others are an endless source
of trouble. If you interact with someone you're bound to be in pain at some
point because, sadly, it is human nature to be selfish and rude to others.
Every relationship just becomes a vicious circle... You will inevitably hurt
each other and things will end badly… It's really tough to be in a
relationship!
Breaking someone's trust is
like crumbling up a perfect piece of paper. You can smooth it over but it's
never going to be the same again afterwards. You feel so hurt you don’t ever
want to trust someone ever again! Who needs friends? I wish everyone would just
leave me alone! I don’t care about anything anymore! I am better off on my own!
You resent others so you
close off your heart… but a heart that lets nothing in will become empty. And
you'll only hurt more, because, in the end, we need others…
This is the incredible
concept of "love". At first glance it may seem foolish and common,
but love is actually incredibly powerful. It's what keeps us safe. Love (be it from
friends, lovers or family) is so simple yet so amazing.
You don’t want to get
involved with anyone anymore because you’re scared of being hurt once again…
but there’s nothing you can do about it, you need love!
True, there are people in
this world who enjoy being alone. But there isn’t a single soul who can bear
solitude. Everyone needs others. Otherwise, you’ll always feel incomplete. No
one can live by himself. You need someone… to acknowledge you and to love you.
And you need that someone to need you back. People need to be told they’re
worthy of being alive or they can’t go on…
So, you choose to open your
heart once more although you know it’s more likely to be broken again, and by
opening your heart, you experience bliss. You find that being vulnerable is the
only way that allows you to feel true pleasure, and that’s so real it scares
you.
We are meant to feel, to love,
and even to hate, and hurt, and cry, and break and be destroyed and to rebuild
ourselves and to be destroyed again. This is humanity. This is what it means to
be alive!
Love is something you can
only share with others. That's why we are dependent on others. And, anyway, you
can't avoid pain. Everyone will hurt you, in one way or another. You just have
to find the people worth suffering for.
You see, I am not perfect
either. I will annoy you, say stupid things, and then take it all back. We are
not gods or demons, we are just humans. That’s why we’re allowed to make
mistakes.
Do you think there’s a
person in this world who has never hurt anyone else? It’s so easy to hurt
someone. After all, each one of us is a part of this huge group called
‘others’. We are very good judges of others’ mistakes, aren’t we? And we’re
such good lawyers for our own cause!
Don’t just mindlessly judge
people as you please. Everyone you meet has weaknesses. Everyone is different
but we are all insecure about something. Everyone hurts even if it’s not in the
same way. It's important to always keep in mind that everyone has a past and a
dark side they don’t want others to know about. Everyone puts on a mask that
says: “Always fine, always okay, always on show.” But a smile doesn't
necessarily mean that the person is alright. They just don’t show their
feelings because they feel like nobody needs or wants to know.
We are one. Others aren't
one big group of bullies. They’re billions of people just like me, longing for kindness.
Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength. People are weak. You are
weak. I am weak. We’re always only thinking about ourselves. But actually
everyone just wants to be loved...
Anyway, if someone always
follows the perfect path without ever facing hardship, is it really the best thing
for that person? There's no such thing as a painless lesson. Experiences build
character. Interaction with others enables us to grow, to become more mature,
all together, but each at our own speed. If we are who we are today, it’s due
to all the hardships we’ve been through.
You've been hurt, maybe
you're still hurting, but this is what enables you to become a better person.
We meet new people and so we change and I believe it is usually for the best.
No matter how much or how often people hurt each other, loving someone is never
a waste of time or energy. So don't resent others. Thank them for what they have
taught you. Pain allows people to grow, but how you grow up is up to you.
One smile can start a
friendship, one word can end a fight, and one person can change your life. Each
new person you meet is an opportunity. Be a good person but don't waste your
time trying to prove to people that you are. Be who you are and say what you
feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
When a relationship is over,
leave. Stop watering a dead flower. There is no such thing as forever.
Everything comes to an end, just as it should. It never gets easier. You just
get stronger. All in all, everyone, including myself, has their flaws, but
that’s what drives us to work together, to make up for those flaws. We are all
different, but we need each other. We cover each others’ weaknesses. Together
we are the perfect combination.
